This week’s prompt is “Interview With A Fellow Lolita.” I wanted to interview my friend Terry, who was one of my first friends I made in the Lolita fashion community. I’ve looked up to her for many years, and admire how she always finds so much joy in Lolita fashion. Read on to learn more about Terry’s Lolita lifestyle!
Q: How did you discover Lolita fashion?
A: I discovered Lolita fashion when I watched a Japanese drama called Mendol Ikemen Idol. One of the girls from drama, named Minami Minegishi, dressed in old school — she so cute when she dress up!
Q: What’s your favorite part about wearing Lolita?
A: My favorite part of wearing Lolita is when I dress up, I feel so cute and pretty. I love ruffles and laces.
Q: What’s your favorite Lolita fashion memory?
A: My favorite Lolita memory is RuffleCon. I do miss rufflecon because I miss all my friends from east coast who’s into fashion like me.
Q: What are your top 3 tips to new Lolitas?
A: Indie brands, or they could order form Taobao resellers, Bodyline, and Lacemarket secondhand. Look through history and do more research and try to look your best.
Q: What’s your least favorite part about Lolita fashion?
A: My least favorite part of Lolita fashion is corset lace — it’s hard to breathe.
Q: How do you create your coords?
A: Makeup, blouses, jumperskirt, wig, headpiece, petticoats, OTK, and shoes as long as it matches with the coordinate.
Q: What’s your favorite Coord?
A: My favorite coord is bittersweet. I love bittersweet because I love a little bit of dark and light into it.
Q: What’s your favorite brand and why?
A: My favorite brand is Angelic Pretty because I love their cut and print that could make stand out.
Q: What’s is your favorite activity to do while wearing Lolita fashion?
A: My favorite activity while I’m wearing Lolita fashion is to have a nice Lolita community host a meetup for tea room and a trip to botanical garden.
This week’s prompt is “5 Surprise Finds That You Didn’t Realize You Would Enjoy So Much!”
I’m sure everyone has encountered surprise finds, whether it was an impulse buy, a gift from a friend, or something you saw and unexpectedly felt a pull toward it, even though you normally wouldn’t gravitate toward something like that.
1) This JSK was truly a surprise for me, because I got it from a lucky pack and had no idea what I was going to get (other than it being from the Alice and the Pirates brand). The name of the JSK is Starlit Sky Tent and the Secret Circus Troupe JSK I, in the blue colorway. I was hoping for something in red or bordeaux, so at first, I was disappointed when I saw the color. But I grew to love it’s unique print and beautiful design, and I’ve worn this dress often!
2) These Wolky red Mary Jane shoes were a surprise find in a small locally-owned shoe store near my college campus. They were on clearance sale, so I got a good deal on them, and at first, I wasn’t sure if they’d truly be comfortable since they have heels. But I’ve worn these walking, dancing, etc. and they’re really comfortable and well-made shoes! I love Lolita tea party shoes, but unfortunately, they’re not really made for walking and aren’t comfortable. As someone with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and flat feet, I also need arch supports. And these shoes have built-in arch supports! Even without my custom orthotics, they are comfortable. Sneakers are more comfortable though, but I rarely wear sneakers with Lolita fashion. I’ve worn these Wolky shoes with almost all of my red colorway coords.
3) These black Bodyline wristcuffs were a surprise find, and honestly I wasn’t expecting much… but they’re so cute and I’ve worn them for so many coords! They’re really versatile and work well for both gothic and sweet (bittersweet) coordinates. They’ve also held up well; the elastic hasn’t become over-stretched.
4) These vintage French crochet gloves were totally a surprise find from a Parisian flea market. They were damaged though and I’m scared to wear them much because they’re quite fragile. But I enjoy them so much, even if it’s just gazing at them. I store them in a clear ziploc bag, and they are stored in a container in a very visible place in my room, so even though I’ve had them for years, I still like to look at them. Occasionally, I’ll wear them out with coords!
5) This goldtone ring with an ivory rose was something I found years ago in Forever21. When I first got it, I wasn’t too into it, but as I built my Lolita fashion wardrobe, I found myself wearing it more and more often. It’s very easy to match with various colors, and it fits comfortably on my middle finger. It’s a versatile ring that will look great with non-Lolita coordinates too. And it’s sturdy! Many of my rings have broken if I drop them, or they get scratched and discolored, but this ring still loks practically new.
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Hi everyone! I’m back with a summary of more products I received from Wishtrend. If you’d like to shop at Wishtrend, be sure to use the code “LiLi15” for 15% off your purchase.
The last Wishtrend review I wrote was for the Quad Active Boosting Essence, which I’m still using daily as the second step of my skincare, both mornings and nights. I’m about halfway through the bottle now, and will finish the bottle. Read on to see what I will be trying next…
I recently tried fig jam, and absolutely love it, so it seems fitting that I have a fig based skincare line to try next.
Check out the packaging for these products below:
I’m trying the products from the new fig line first, and will share my thoughts via reviews soon. If you’ve tried any of these products, let me know your thoughts in the comments! I’d also love to hear about your experiences with other products from these brands.
Happy Spring, everybody! In today’s blog post, we talk about my Spring haul from YesStyle! Remember my first YesStyle haul ever? I completely forgot to claim the free gift that time, but this time, I remembered! On top of any sales going on at the moment, use the code “3PEARLS” to get an additional discount off your entire order! ^_^
The free gift I got were these cute daisy stickers. You can also get them in various designs: different types of flowers, plants, and leaves. I can’t wait to use them to decorate letters and cards to my pen pals after the pandemic!
During this haul, I still got a lot of items in black since black is super easy to coordinate into outfits. My favorite color is red, so I also got a few things in red! And one pink top and one purple top to mix things up. Let’s move onto the reviews for each individual item:
Sheer Long-Sleeved Blouse + Camisole – ★★★★☆ – I got this in the Light Almond colorway in my first YesStyle haul, and I couldn’t resist getting it in black too. The quality is the same as the Light Almond one. Removed one star because I dislike the buttons in the back of the neck (they’re difficult to do and undo).
Tiered Sleeve Off-Shoulder Smocked Top – ★★★★☆ – Love this stylish top! The design is great and the sleeves don’t slip down or ride up. It is comfortable to wear too. I knocked off one star because the sleeves are really long. My arms are already long, so I rarely have this issue.
Gingham Ruched Waist Crop Top – ★★★★☆ – I love gingham! This slightly puff sleeved crop top is really cute. You can wear it off the shoulders, but the neckline will ride up if you lift your arms up. You can also wear it as a scoop neck top. There were a lot of loose threads on it when it came in, but they were easy to trim off.
Cutout-Side Pleated A-Line Skort – ★☆☆☆☆ – The name and description for this item are both incorrect. It is not a skort. It is not a skirt. It did not come with shorts or the leg belt. This is more like a buttcape or an over-layer accessory. You secure it around your waist with the buckle, but you cannot wear it on its own since there are no shorts. It’s a cute item, but I wish the name and description were accurate! If this was listed accurately, I would rate it 3 or 4 stars.
5. Plain Off Shoulder Cropped Long Sleeve Top – ★★★★☆ – I love this top! It’s so stylish and stretchy (comfy to wear). The neckline stays off the shoulders and the sleeves are the perfect length. It’s a very flattering top. There were loose threads I had to trim off, but honestly I don’t mind. I can’t wait to wear this outside after quarantine!
6. Elbow-Sleeve Boat Neck T-Shirt – ★★★★☆ – This is definitely a boat neck t-shirt as the title says. In the photos, it looks like an off-the-shoulder top, but it’s much too tight for me to wear it off-the-shoulder. The fabric is super soft and comfortable to wear.
7. Plaid Cami – ★★★★☆ – This cami is super cute! It’s a stretchy and comfy fabric, and the arm holes aren’t too wide (which is a common problem I have with tank tops). I almost didn’t grab this, but I’m so glad I did.
8. Bell-Sleeve Chiffon Top – ★★★★☆ – I love this top with flared sleeves! I’ve been looking for a top with dramatically flared sleeves are these are perfect. The way they are flared is great because it has the look, but is cut in a way where the sleeves won’t get into your food when you’re eating. I don’t see the point of the zipper in the back though; the neckline is wide enough for you to pull the top on and off without unzipping. The zipper doesn’t add any style to it, but no big deal since I can just ignore it.
9. Ruffle Trim Strappy Cami Cropped Top – ★★★★★ – Wow, wow! This cami is super cute. I was worried that size Small wouldn’t fit me, but it is so stretchy and comfy and fits perfectly. The straps are perfect too, and the arm holes aren’t too big. I really want to get this cami in white too.
What is your favorite item from this haul? I’ve been wearing some of these cute clothes to make Tiktoks and even though I can’t do a proper photoshoot, I self-shot myself wearing some cute outfits using the timer on my cell phone camera. There’s a May Flowers 80% off sale going on right now; use the code “3PEARLS” to get an additional discount off your entire order!
This week’s prompt is “Pros & Cons: Keeping To One Style VS Multiple Styles” … and this prompt really speaks to me.
I’ve pondered this question many times, even before I started building my Lolita fashion wardrobe. I’m sure other Lolitas have pondered this as well. I currently have multiple styles and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’ll share my personal Lolita wardrobe story first, and then I’ll share a list of Pros and Cons.
Before I even started in the fashion, circa 2008 to 2011, I really wanted to start off in a single style: Gothic Lolita. When I was growing up, I hated the color pink and didn’t really like Sweet Lolita for all its pastels. I loved the Classic Lolita style since I’ve always been a fan of historic clothing, but the prices always seemed much too high. The first piece I ever acquired was a black Bodyline jumperskirt (although it was more punk than gothic). Before that, I only had offbrand things I found at thrift stores, or skirts that my mom and I worked on sewing together.
In 2012, when I started building my Lolita wardrobe, I took a surprising turn: Sweet Lolita! The reason was simple: budget. At the time, I stalked EGL Comm Sales on Livejournal religiously, on the hunt for secondhand deals. For some reason, and I’m not sure why, there were no affordable options for gothic styles that appealed to me. However, I did find a lot of cute Sweet Lolita items that were cheap. As an adult, the color pink didn’t bother me so much anymore. Part of it was probably due to my time reading the Gothic Lolita Bibles and KERA magazines, and starting to like pastel colors as well.
As you can see from my coord to my first-ever lolita meetup in January 2013, I am wearing (gasp!) some pink! I can’t recall the name of the skirt, but it’s from BTSSB. The blouse is just a basic white button-down shirt, and the bolero was a vintage item from a hospice shop. The large bow was hand-sewn, and the two smaller bows were from Forever 21 (and I still use those little bows all the time for coords!).
So, I went down the route of primarily Sweet Lolita, which was a total surprise! The goal was never to stick to one style forever though. I wanted to wear multiple styles. This is a desire I have not just for Lolita fashion, but for my wardrobe outside of Lolita too. I love fashion and being creative with outfits, but I also have different preferences for what to wear during certain times.
Eventually, I started acquiring Gothic Lolita pieces, and my wardrobe was split between the two styles. Below, you can see some of my coords from 2013 and 2014.
From 2015 to 2016, I acquired more Japanese brand pieces (and shifted from primarily shopping on LiveJournal to shopping on Facebook and MBOK for secondhand items). I also collected more basics like blouses, socks/tights, and accessories, and I started collecting a few classic pieces.
In today’s wardrobe, I have a wide variety of styles, and it can be overwhelming sometimes… but I have no regrets. I am not a lifestyle Lolita, but I do see myself as a collector Lolita. I love collecting different pieces! I don’t have much space, so it’s a struggle in a small apartment, but I make it work (even if it means stuffing clothing into vacuum seal bags or stuffing them into plastic bins and duffle bags…). Someday, I hope to have a proper closet where I can store my Lolita collection in one place. In my last LBC post, I shared my top tips for managing a wardrobe.
Now, for the PROS and CONS of Multiple Styles~!
Variety of styles to choose from
Do you want to go goth today? Or channel your inner Victorian lady? Or are you feeling sickeningly sweet and want to be all ice cream sundaes and whipped cream?
Unleash your creative side
When you have multiple styles, you can also mix some styles together! Do you want to be gothic but lean into classic and look like a Victorian lady in mourning? How about combining some Decora with your Sweet Lolita? Or let’s create some fun Punk / Gothic vibes?
Space? What space? Unless you can afford a larger apartment or to live in a house, you’re not going to have much space with your collection of multiple styles.
I think it’s fine to tag Loliita Blog Carnival as “LBC” again in the blog post titles, right? I’ve been participating in Lolita Blog Carnival more regularly lately!
This week’s prompt is “Top Tips For Managing Your Wardrobe.” To be honest, I need to implement a better way to manage my wardrobe, but it’s really tough when you’re living in a tiny (and cockroach-infested) NYC apartment. The closet I have has a broken door (it’s off the hinges and doesn’t close properly), so I try not to hang any of my lolita dresses in there. I store my lolita clothing mostly in a suitcase, and I also have a plastic container where I store more clothing item that does not fit in my storage suitcase. As for lolita accessories, I clean and recycle containers for hair accessories and jewelry (moon box tins for hair corsages and bows, laptop box for headbows, etc.), or hat boxes for hats and bonnets.
I’ll summarize 5 tips for managing your wardrobe:
Organize by item. Blouses? Put them all in the same container, or put them next to each other in the closet. Socks? Keep them in the same place for easy access.
Get more specific and stay organized. You can organize by color or style. For example, I put all my gothic hair accessories together in the same tin, and all my sweet and deco rings together in the same box. You can also organize legwear by ankle socks, knee-high or over-the-knee socks, and tights/leggings. If you wear certain items more than others, put them in a more easily accessible place so you’re not digging through too much to find things you wear regularly.
Designate a spot for loliable items or items that you also use for other styles. I have a duffel bag where I store my punk items, and another bag where I store my gyaru items. I also use some of these items for lolita coords, but I keep them separate since my biggest collection of alternative fashion is lolita, and it’s easier to keep those items separate. And when I’m planning coords and want to incorporate punk or gyaru, it’s easy for me to find what I need in these spaces.
Keep inventory. I know a lot of Lolitas who make a yearly wardrobe post, or have an album where they keep photos of all their items. I haven’t done either of these yet, but I do have a written list of items I keep track of. This is a great way to hold yourself accountable to what items you have and if you want to sell items, you can also refer to this list. During the beginning of my time in the fashion, I wasn’t good about keeping a list and I regret this since it was difficult for me to backtrack and add items to the list. I currently only keep track of main pieces, but it would also be helpful to keep track of accessories.
Separate items you are selling from the rest. If you have items for sale, separate them from the rest of your wardrobe so you can organize what you’re selling and easily find them when you need to ship them out.
Right now, in celebration of Earth Day, YesStyle is giving away a free tote bag with purchase until April 26 — you can shop beauty here, and use the code “3PEARLS” for an additional discount off your order.
This was my first time trying a product from the K-Beauty brand Beauty of Joseon, and I decided to try the Revitalize Sleeping Mask. Technically, I am using a different sleeping mask daily, but I’ve been applying it as a night cream and not using it as a sleeping mask. Therefore, I have been using the Revitalize Sleeping Mask as an additional layer once in a while when my skin needs more moisture. I waited until I was done with the jar before writing this review.
The beautiful vintage-style packaging caught my eye first! I love the paper cover over the jar, but under the paper cover is an actual lid. It’s also made from sturdy plastic. I’ve accidentally dropped the jar a few times, and it never broke.
This is a sleeping mask, so it is meant to be applied as the last step of your skincare routine at night. This product is advertised as providing its users with brightening and anti-wrinkle benefits, and some ingredients include black soybean, ginseng and orchid extract.
From my experience, the texture is light, cool, and gel-like. It absorbs quickly into the skin, although it feels a bit sticky when first applied. I am not sure if it is fragrance-free, but it does not smell artificial. There is no definitive smell in my personal opinion, and it did not cause any skin irritation. It’s a great sleeping mask for added moisture, but I didn’t notice any brightening benefits.
This week’s prompt is: “Create A Coord That Sparks Joy!” I haven’t been very inspired by coords lately, but I decided to use my favorite color combination (red and black) plus some punk inspiration. I have admired punk fashion (and any rebellious fashion style, honestly) for a long time, and it was fun pulling together this look!
This JSK has been my favorite Taobao piece for years, and I also highlighted it in this Lolita Blog Carnival post in 2015. Chess Story’s In the Name of Rose JSK is so elegant, and I wouldn’t think to use it for a Punk Lolita coord at first, but I’m glad I chose to use it as the main piece.
The jacket is an offbrand punk piece I have worn in lolita coords in the past like this one, and this jacket brings me joy and I really should wear it more often.
I really love mismatched aesthetic, so I also wanted to layer one striped over-the-knee sock on one side, and reveal the patterned tights on the other side. I even chose to incorporate a choker with half black/half red and mismatching black and red fingerless lace gloves. These gloves and this choker I acquired into my wardrobe recently, and last time I wore them was for a Harley Quinn closet cosplay earlier this month, but I wanted to use these accessories for a punk look as well!
The black and red rose hair clips are so beat up now… they’ve been well-loved and well-worn, and I’ll continue to incorporate them into coords well into the future. These roses spark joy for me and even as I acquire new hair accessories, I always gravitate back to these roses when coords have black and/or red color schemes.
For shoes, I’d wear the same boots I wore in this coord:
These boots are super comfy, and I love how they look with various outfits. I have orthotics in them too, for arch support. I love how the red laces pop against the red, and I also love the silhouette of the block heel.
I read the Just Below the Knee Zine recently, and thoroughly enjoyed it. This month’s theme from them is punk lolita, and they’re running a Punk Coord Contest right now. I might wear this coord this weekend and enter it in the contest! I may even tweak some things a bit; we’ll see. One aspect of Lolita fashion that sparks joy in me is the process of creating coordinates (and wearing them), and I hope you have a fashion style in your life that sparks joy too!
This week’s prompt is “Share A Bit About Your Favorite Piece & How You Acquired It.”
My favorite piece is one of my dream dresses: Angelic Pretty’s French Café in the red colorway. I’ve worn it for my birthday tea party two years in a row (and didn’t even realize this fact til one of my friends pointed it out). I always gravitated towards this dress among my dream dresses over the years, and after acquiring it, I still enjoy looking at it (and wearing it!). It’s currently hanging on the rack in my bedroom so I can look at it everyday.
How did I acquire my French Café JSK? Secondhand, of course! I can’t recall exactly when I purchased it, but it was a few years ago from a friend in the Boston Lolita Community. She was kind enough to let me pay her through a payment plan, and I purchased this JSK as a set with the headbow and socks, and I also purchased some other lolita clothing items from her as part of the same payment plan.
What’s your favorite lolita fashion piece? Share the story of how you’ve acquired your fave in the comments! I love hearing these stories.
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This is an essence that is advertised to have anti-inflammatory, anti-pollution, and anti-bacterial effects. It’s formulated with 3 Complex Ingredients (Morus Alba Bark Extract, Nelumbo Nucifera Leaf Extract, Schisandra Chinensis Fruit Extract), Salix Alba (Willow) Bark Extract, Centaurea Cyanus Flower Water, and Propolis. It also has supporting ingredients Black Tea and Honey to help moisturize the skin.
Here is how the item arrived:
The essence was generously bubble-wrapped for protection, and Wishtrend also included a cute set of Klairs postcards.
The Quad Active Boosting Essence box included instructions for use and an ingredient list in English. This essence is meant to be used after your toner but before your serum. I currently don’t use a serum, so I’m using this essence after my toner but before my moisturizer. My current skincare routine is toner, this essence, eye cream, moisturizer. Sometimes I’ll do a sleeping mask after my moisturizer if my skin is feeling dry, or a sheet mask after my toner for some relaxing self-care.
The container itself is simple and clean. I like that it’s a clear bottle: this makes it easy to see how much product is left. It’s glass, so be careful not to drop it.
Upon opening the bottle, I was pleased to see a seal. With a seal like this, you know that the product is brand new and has not been tampered with. The screw-top cap is also secure and easy to unscrew and screw back on.
The essence itself is super light and feels like water! It absorbs quickly into the skin, and doesn’t have any scent. I tried smelling it directly from the bottle: and nothing. This product would be suitable for sensitive skin, or for people who are sensitive to fragrance and prefer fragrance-free products. I’ve been using this product for over a week now, twice a day (morning and night) and I haven’t noticed any negative reactions. My skin feels moisturized and comfortable, and I look forward to continuing to use this essence. I have an ampoule I want to try, and I may add that ampoule in after this essence.